On Monday, I made the horrible mistake of confessing something from my past to a loved one. At the time, it seemed like the right thing to do because I wanted to be free from years of guilt and shame. So I confessed my mistake and hoped to feel compassion from the loved one. Instead I was meant with ridicule and taunting and the infamous “I knew you weren’t a good two shoes”. “Why God” I thought to myself. I just confessed a sin to someone I love in hopes of starting the healing process-only to be meant with anguish and more judgement. Now I understand why people take stuff to the grave; they fear rejection and judgement for their honesty. If confessing is being transparent but your loved ones aren’t in a position to whole heartedly receive your repentive heart what do you do? Do you take it to the grave? Do you tell them anyway and take in more shame? Or do you straighten them out because your so Holy and Righteous? By trial and error I know that you must instantly hold back, pray about it, and wait for God to lead you. I jumped ahead of God in the process of healing and ended up setting myself back. Before you bolt from the bar stool listen to this; I confessed my sins to God and to my Pastor. Second time around I was met with Love, Forgiveness, and resources to healing. God put his word and peace in my heart to reassure me that his forgiveness is what matters most. My loved ones can’t love or forgive me like he can. My pastor sent me some useful tools that I believe will help me move forward and start growing in the pain. In confessing my sin to God and someone I know-there is freedom. I can’t be held to the past even if the past wants to hold me. Be clear, confess to God first and then to the right ones and that’s where you’ll find freedom. Honesty is always the best policy even if the initial response is pain and suffering. On the other side of that pain is where God will begin the process of healing your hurts, hang-ups, and habits. And by sharing your past or pain you never know who’s life you might make a difference in. Never be afraid to release your sins to God and others; there is redemption in the process.